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Guest column: Finding calm amid the noise, confusion of social media

February 22, 2016 by Andrew Heller 9 Comments

By Brenda Brissette Mata

There was a time (usually an intro that reflects on my advanced age) that I didn’t necessarily know the political leanings of my friends. And I certainly never knew the political leanings of acquaintances.

Brenda cropped headshotBut these days I not only know the politics of people I barely know, in many circumstances I know the politics of folks I haven’t even met; the blessing or curse of social media.

Good thing or bad? I’m not sure. It’s not that it’s a bad thing to know a friend’s politics, but I feel like we’ve lost a lot of the respect that should come with sharing political views.

I’m not fond of living in an echo chamber, I encourage and even seek out opinions that differ from mine. I love political arguments, but lately it’s been information overload.

A couple of months ago, a woman I know  (I wouldn’t call her a “friend” – but she was the kindergarten teacher for one of my sons decades ago, I guess we are “social media” friends) posted her decision to exit the world of social media.

It made me sad because I love reading her posts, little bits about her family and photos of gorgeous places where she has traveled, and the occasional philosophical quote.

Pretty sure I wouldn’t recognize her if I saw her at the side of the road, but I seek her out on social media and I’m rarely disappointed.

I sent her a private message and told her, that while I understood her decision, I wanted her to know how much I enjoyed following her. I confessed that without social media I would have no reason to stay in touch. I admitted that I wouldn’t know her if I saw her in the grocery store, but my life is better seeing her positive and uplifting posts.

She decided to stay – not because of me – I’m sure plenty of similar notes were sent her way. So now, I continue to see sweet pictures of her grandchildren and sunset from places I’ll never visit.

The problem is I’m starting to feel the way she did. I’m just getting so tired of the anger and the disrespectful way people speak to each other.  It’s exhausting and that’s coming from someone who loves political argument – it just seems, between the crisis in Flint and Michigan and the presidential primaries, it’s never ending. These are serious issues and deserve serious, contemplative discussion and consideration.

But it seems like we are an angry bunch. Political viewpoints are screamed and argued in 140 characters or less – or in some cases in multi-paragraph diatribes.

I don’t want to be a Pollyanna, but I’ve always believed that if we can see the way in which we are more similar than different, it builds a greater foundation of civility and community.

Some days I think about getting away from it all – disconnecting and calming my brain. But then I see a family at a birthday party or congratulations for completing chemo or a silly pet and then I remember that there is civility. I just have to look for it.

Brenda’s column appears at noon every Monday. 

 

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Comments

  1. Dale says

    February 22, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    You can’t escape the wackos even if you leave social media. They’re too loud and they’re too everywhere. The only solution is a cabin off the grid in the woods. Problem is, then you’re a wacko.

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  2. Tim says

    February 22, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    So let me suggest you seek out a 90+yr old man named Thich Nhat Hanh, who was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by MLK himself. Being aware of everything around us every moment brings peace to the individual and the world. It’s not New Age bubblegum, it’s the real deal, and helps so many navigate the 140 Highway. Mindfulness in an age of mindlessness….

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  3. Janet says

    February 22, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Thanks, Brenda, for verbalizing what I bet many others are thinking.

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  4. James says

    February 22, 2016 at 4:22 pm

    Yes, the serenity of the bridge. Yet, again under that beautiful sight,lays another ticking environmental disaster!

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  5. Sue Harvey says

    February 22, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Sometimes I feel like I’m watching the weigh in at a Mayweather Pacquiao fight. Not a group of people wanting to be elected as “leader of the free world” When I’ve read foreign online newspapers it sounds like they would like us to build a wall all around the USA! Why all the paranoia?

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    • Brenda says

      February 22, 2016 at 7:43 pm

      Ha! Perfect. It is like a watching a fight. Punch for punch.

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  6. Barbara says

    February 22, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Thank you so much for saying exactly what I’ve been thinking – but you said it better! Looking forward to hearing from you and Andy on this new site.

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  7. Laura says

    February 22, 2016 at 11:19 pm

    It’s good to see Brenda’s and Andy’s columns again. I am a Peace Corps Volunteer currently serving in Ukraine, but my home base is the City of Flint. SO happy to see you two at it again! For the past six months, much of my window on American has been social media. Brenda’s column is Windex to Andy’s fingerprints. One makes me focus on certain spots, the other clears the view. Love your work!

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    • andrewhellercolumn@gmail.com says

      February 23, 2016 at 8:34 am

      Wow, now THAT’S a metaphor (or a simile, I always get the two confused). Laura, you’re now officially our Coordinator of Blog Expansion in Ukraine. Wear the title proudly.

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